A Letter to Parents

Dear Netivot Shalom Bar/Bat Mitzvah Parent(s),


Welcome! This is an amazing time for you as your child is about to enter the teenage years and begin emerging into adulthood.  Preparing to become a Bat/Bar Mitzvah can be intense for everyone involved! We pledge to help support this meaningful journey for you and your child and hope that the following suggestions and procedures will be helpful:


  1. To make the Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony familiar and comfortable rather than confusing and alien, attending Shabbat services together is crucial.

  1. Look upon this period leading up to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah as an opportunity for Jewish growth for your whole family. Here are some ways in which your family can learn together:
    1. Read and study the portion together.
    2. Consider attending a part of our extensive family and adult education offerings!
    3. Consider learning a segment of the Torah reading.
    4. If possible, try to do one new thing.

  1. Share with your child why the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is important to you and talk with your child about what it means to them. This is a journey for your child and your family. Think about the meaning and value of this transition. It is a religious life cycle event, celebrated in community.

  1. Consider with your child some form of tzedakah (righteous giving), so that the occasion will not only be for receiving, but for giving as well.  Think about what new mitzvah can be undertaken by your family after the simcha (celebration).   Promote a continuing involvement with Jewish education, individually as well as a family, especially a commitment to attend Midrasha, JCHS, JYCA, and other wonderful Jewish communal programs and participate in Netivot Shalom’s upcoming USY/Kadima youth group activities!

We are here to help you and your child prepare for a meaningful Bar/Bat Mitzvah.  Please don’t hesitate to contact us with any questions you may have along the way.  We look forward to sharing your simcha with you!

With Excitement – Mazal Tov!

Rabbi Menachem Creditor – rabbi@netivotshalom.org
Molly Shapiro, Director of Youth Community and Connection- molly@netivotshalom.org